Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

A weekly examination of trans life, trans representation in media, allyship, and even the broad basics of existing as a trans person in our society.

If you're looking for the social media/Google doc versions, please visit TillysTransTuesdays.com.

About The Show

When I publicly came out as trans, I was keenly aware of how much privilege I was giving up in transitioning from a white (seemingly) cis man to a white trans woman. But I was also very much aware of how much privilege I still had. Which is not to say femme white trans ladies have a lot of privilege in our society, but we certainly have more than every trans woman of color.

On top of that, so many trans people lose spouses, family, friends, homes, and jobs when we come out, and I basically lost none of that. So I remain remarkably more privileged than most trans women, and I recognize that and I wanted to USE it to help people.

I’m a writer, it’s what I do. So I had the thought that I would chronicle my transition, and talk about things cis people might never realize about society, and do what I could to take as much pressure off of other trans people as I could. I had no idea how long I’d be writing them, I thought I’d just talk until I ran out of things to talk about. But that never happened, because so many more things keep getting added to the list. Things I myself never even realized (and couldn’t have) until well into my transition.

So here we are, two and a half years after they started, and there’ve been over one hundred installments (this is 119!) and my mega 24-thread deep dive into the intentional trans allegories of the Matrix movies will be released as a book in the summer of 2023. And it’s that book that actually got me thinking about my Trans Tuesdays as a whole. I was a little hesitant to turn the Matrix threads into a book at first, even though many people who’ve read them have asked for exactly that.

But a very small percentage of the population is on social media, and a book could reach an entirely new audience of people. And so many people have told me how those Matrix threads, and these threads in general, have helped them. And that’s the whole reason I started these. I just want to help people. To be as much of a resource as I can. And that led me to the realization that these threads could reach a lot more people if they were also in another medium.

I don’t speak for all trans people. All I can give you is my own perspective. But with the podcast, now I can also give other trans people a platform to talk about these same issues, to share their thoughts on what being trans means to them.

I want to celebrate us, to share the beauty and complexity of our existence with the world. And whether you read on social media, read them from the website, or listen to the podcast (or all three!), thank you for joining me on this journey.

Tilly Bridges
Executive Producer
Pendant Productions

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Episode Archive

Unexpected Changes from Transition

Episode Number: 77

So now you know that there are little bonuses that come with transition that we couldn't have anticipated, but did you know even more comes along with it? Sometimes there are changes to yourself and the way you exist in the world that you also could have never anticipated. And where those can lead you is sometimes surprising. Geeky ttrpg-er Kristine Chester joins us to discuss being present in your life and how ttrpgs really are evil! (no they're not) (this episode includes my Only At Comic-con wild experience from SDCC 2023!)

Episode download: TTT077.mp3

KRISTINE CHESTER
Twitter: @12thKnight

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Body Hair, Gender Euphoria, Gender Dysphoria, Finding Our Trans Style, Hair, Hair 2, Four Year Retrospective, Unexpected Bonuses of Transition, Confidence 2: Into the Unknown (A Whole New World, What is Happening), Pandemic Transition, Photos and Reflections, Photos 2: The Selfie Apocalypse, A Trans Re-wedding

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: July 23, 2024

Run Time: 47:29
Unexpected Bonuses of Transition

Episode Number: 76

There's a whole lot that every trans and nonbinary person hopes to get out of transition, but sometimes you also get small, wonderful little bits of joy you never could have anticipated. And they're all due to the world transition opens up to you. Photographer, filmmaker, and writer Rachel Kendra returns to discuss film scores, Robotech, and not hating the person in the mirror. Am I for real? Thanks so much, Reagan!

Episode download: TTT076.mp3

RACHEL KENDRA
Twitter: @rachelxkendra
Threads: @rachelxkendra
Insta: @rachelxkendra
Bluesky: @rachelxkendra
Website: rachelkendra.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, Gender Euphoria, Gender Dysphoria, A Trans Re-wedding, Gendered Childhoods, Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: July 16, 2024

Run Time: 41:47
Four Year Retrospective

Episode Number: 75

I've been out publicly as trans for four years, and on hormone replacement therapy for just as long! So let's dive in to my annual check-in and see what new developments (ahem) have occurred! We're going to cover body hair, photos, exercise, confidence, voice, clothes, getting married all over again, and multiple new body changes! Photographer, filmmaker, and writer Rachel Kendra joins us to discuss the dying film industry and how it's so L.A. to first meet on a podcast! Let's just see what happens. For fun!

Episode download: TTT075.mp3

RACHEL KENDRA
Twitter: @rachelxkendra
Threads: @rachelxkendra
Insta: @rachelxkendra
Bluesky: @rachelxkendra
Website: rachelkendra.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com)
One, Two, and Three Year Retrospectives, Transition Setbacks, 2022 US Trans Survey Report, Pandemic Transition, Body Hair, Photos and Reflections, Photos 2: The Selfie Apocalypse, Performative Allyship, Body Hacking, Hair, Hair 2, Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo), Confidence, Confidence 2 (aka Into the Unknown aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), A Trans Re-wedding, Trans Voices 1-3, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Finding Our Trans Style

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: July 9, 2024

Run Time: 55:58
Boymode/Girlmode

Episode Number: 74

Do you know what boymoding and girlmoding are? Do you know why trans and nonbinary people would do it, especially when the chances are high that we REALLY don't want to? Guess what you're gonna learn all about this week? Let's talk about what it is, why we do it, and why it absolutely SUCKS for many of us. Priest, playwright, and theologian Shannon TL Kearns returns to discuss connecting with our bodies and trusting yourself. Feel your feelings!

Episode download: TTT074.mp3

SHANNON TL KEARNS
Twitter: @shannontlkearns
Facebook: @shannontlkearns
Insta: @shannontlkearns
Tiktok: @shannontlkearns
Website: shannontlkearns.com
In the Margins: A Transgender Man’s Journey with Scripture - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0802879489

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, A Pandemic Transition, Confidence, A Trans Re-wedding, Gender Dysphoria, Legal Name and Gender Marker Changes, 2022 US Trans Survey Early Insights

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: July 2, 2024

Run Time: 27:35
Sexuality is Not Gender

Episode Number: 73

Too many folks confuse or conflate sexuality and gender, when they're entirely different things. But the relationship between them can definitely make figuring out that you're trans more difficult. Let's talk about why that is! Priest, playwright, and theologian Shannon TL Kearns joins us to discuss vitriol from faith-based people and how churches don't do their homework! Wait... you mean every guy who sees a pretty lady doesn't want to BE her? Are you sure??

Episode download: TTT073.mp3

SHANNON TL KEARNS
Twitter: @shannontlkearns
Facebook: @shannontlkearns
Insta: @shannontlkearns
Tiktok: @shannontlkearns
Website: shannontlkearns.com
In the Margins: A Transgender Man’s Journey with Scripture - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0802879489

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Gender Dysphoria, Photos and Reflections, Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1), Heavily Gendered Childhoods, The Signs Were Always There (that we're trans), Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: June 25, 2024

Run Time: 35:02
A Trans Re-wedding

Episode Number: 72

What do you do when one of the happiest days of your life was still mostly miserable due to dysphoria, and trying to live up to the lie of who you had to be? Well, my friends, you re-marry your wife as the real you! And what an absolutely mind-blowing experience it was. So my lovely wife and I are gonna talk all about it (and bouquet duels)! This is YOUR life. Be YOU. Do what makes you happy. <3

Episode download: TTT072.mp3

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Gender Dysphoria, Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, Trans Grief, Photos and Reflections, Photos 2: The Selfie Apocalypse, The Signs Were Always There (that we're trans), Finding Our Own Representation (P!nk), Confidence, Parents Who Will Never Know the Real You (aka my dad), Cis Spousal and Partner Support

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Tilly and Susan's Re-wedding playlist - https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vTbRK7WdmDTdNp14ZRP0V9ImfbiScCJUpBHi0XJsfDysYko4-MNfTjMAVKe0WsMg5u0qnxzhtsZxgEq/pub

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: June 18, 2024

Run Time: 39:42
Cis Spousal and Partner Support

Episode Number: 71

There's an epidemic of cis spouses and partners leaving trans people when we come out. Worse, some cis spouses and partners hold relationships, homes, even children over us, with the threat of losing them if we transition. So let's talk about why the support of our cis partners is so vital, what it looks like, and why the opposite is so entirely devastating (and wrong). Artist Andy Alves and writer Ben Crane join us to discuss what transition was like for them and their relationship (find them at HeroesCon June 14-16)! I'm Susan's pal, and shits are fine.

Episode download: TTT071.mp3

ANDY ALVES
ArtStation: artstation.com/andyalves

BEN CRANE
Insta: @benacrane
Bluesky: @bencrane.bsky.social

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The 2022 US Trans Survey report, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Privilege (time and money), Trans Intersectionality, Body Hacking, Finding Our Own Representation (P!nk), Gender Dysphoria, Cis Grief, The Signs Were Always There, Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Cosmic Cadets - https://bookshop.org/p/books/cosmic-cadets-book-one-contact-ben-crane/18747133
A Man of Lies - https://bookshop.org/p/books/a-man-of-lies/18940042
Divorce Issues for Transgender People - https://www.mundahllaw.com/divorce-issues-transgender-people/
Divorce Court Can’t Deal With ‘A Different Category of Spouse’ - https://www.glad.org/tfl/stories/divorce-court-cant-deal-different-category-spouse/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: June 11, 2024

Run Time: 48:30
The 2022 US Trans Survey Results, part 2

Episode Number: 70

We wrap up our discussion on the early insights from the 2022 US Trans Survey, and dig into familial support (or lack thereof), harassment, interactions with police, legal identification, and more! Social worker Charlie Hutchinson returns to discuss living life on autopilot and nature blogs! And remember, every trans selfie is an act of resistance.

Episode download: TTT070.mp3

CHARLIE HUTCHINSON
Insta: @c_t_hutchinson
Facebook: Charlie Hutchinson

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Kids and the Intake Exam, The Erasure of Trans Men, Proactive Allyship, The Fetishization of Trans Women, Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
2022 USTS Early Insights Report - https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/2024-02/2022%20USTS%20Early%20Insights%20Report_FINAL.pdf
Why LGBT Advocates Say Bathroom ‘Predators’ Argument Is a Red Herring - https://time.com/4314896/transgender-bathroom-bill-male-predators-argument/
Reforming Police and Ending Anti-Transgender Violence - https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/docs/resources/NCTE%20Federal%20Blueprint%20Chapter%206%20Police%20and%20Ending%20Violence.pdf

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: June 4, 2024

Run Time: 33:15
The 2022 US Trans Survey Results, part 1

Episode Number: 69

In 2022, the largest ever survey of transgender Americans was conducted, and provided an absolute wealth of data on trans life in the United States. Let's dig in to the early insights from the report, and see what existing as trans in this country is like for everyone who's not cisgender. Social worker Charlie Hutchinson joins us to discuss how we're living our glory days right now!

Episode download: TTT069.mp3

CHARLIE HUTCHINSON
Insta: @c_t_hutchinson
Facebook: Charlie Hutchinson

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at http://TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1), Complete Trans Healthcare (or lack thereof), Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Trans Intersectionality

REFERENCE MATERIAL
2022 USTS Early Insights Report - https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/2024-02/2022%20USTS%20Early%20Insights%20Report_FINAL.pdf
Regret in Surgical Decision Making: A Systematic Review of Patient and Physician Perspectives - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1007/s00268-017-3895-9

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: May 28, 2024

Run Time: 33:29
The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 8

Episode Number: 68

Another installment of Tillyvision comes to a close, as we wrap up the trans allegory of Barbie! Her egg cracked, she experimented, she pulled back and overcompensated, she shed the false male simulacra for good... so what now? Now you have a heart to heart with your heart, and you transition! Self-actualization awaits! Millicent Alexis Book returns one last time to discuss Superman ice cream! Emo? It's all for you.

Episode download: TTT068.mp3

MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Day of Visibility (yes, you are trans enough)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: May 21, 2024

Run Time: 20:44
The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 7

Episode Number: 67

The penultimate episode of the trans allegory of Barbie... in Tillyvision! This week we're going to look into ourselves, confront the false simulacra of a man that's gone way overboard, finally connect with our own truth and realize the transness that our subconscious has been bugging us about all along! Millicent Alexis Book returns to discuss the boundary transcender! Trans people don't split into two people, you know. My job is words!

Episode download: TTT067.mp3

MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Cis Grief, Rainbow Capitalism

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: May 14, 2024

Run Time: 22:18
The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 6

Episode Number: 66

Welcome to more Barbie in Tillyvision, in 4k UHD where available! This week we're going to look back and see how the signs of our transness were always with us, and we're going to talk about one of the most important lines in the entire movie. We're also going to overcompensate in trying to prove how not-trans we are, and that causes all kinds of problems for ourselves (and there's an entire bucket full of Matrix references)! Millicent Alexis Book returns to discuss superfluous men!

Episode download: TTT066.mp3

MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Signs Were Always There (that we were trans), Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1), Trans Microaggressions, Internalized Transphobia, Passing and Misgendering

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: May 7, 2024

Run Time: 23:12
The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 5

Episode Number: 65

If you haven't fully bought in to just how trans Barbie is yet, today's episode is gonna blow your mind and seal the deal! We're going to talk symbols, how trans women never had true male privilege pre-transition, SO many more Matrix connections, how Barbie has a heart to heart WITH her heart, and just maybe... it's gonna help her escape the closet. Millicent Alexis Book returns to discuss a multiple-level ouch! I can dig sometimes!

Episode download: TTT065.mp3

MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Cis is Not a Slur, Rainbow Capitalism, The False Dichotomy, Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, Trans Grief

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 30, 2024

Run Time: 22:50
The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 4

Episode Number: 64

The trans allegory of Barbie continues, Tillyvision drive to maximum! This week Barbie experiences connection with the past she didn't get to have and the future she might yet make it to, we go All The Way Up to the metacortex, and the ride's gonna get bumpy. Millicent Alexis Book returns to discuss the imposition of manliness and how CEO is the easiest job in the world. Are you gonna be a problem for me? I'm no rube!

Episode download: TTT064.mp3

MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Grief, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening, aka A Whole New World), Freeing Up My Brain (lunch with Tilly), Gender Dysphoria, Misgendering and Passing, Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 23, 2024

Run Time: 24:07
The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 3

Episode Number: 63

The Tillyvision deep-dive into the trans allegory of Barbie continues! This week we engage with our subconscious and maybe don't want to hear what it has to say, experience body changes that are new to us, and take our first steps into the real world as ourselves. Things are gonna get weird! The lovely Millicent Alexis Book returns to discuss!

Episode download: TTT063.mp3

MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Gender Dysphoria, Finding Our Trans Style, Trans People Are Human Beings (stop staring at us)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 16, 2024

Run Time: 19:19
The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 2

Episode Number: 62

The trans allegory of Barbie rolls on, Tillyvision can't be stopped! This week we talk about the cure for what ails us, Barbie's egg crack moment and her awakening to gender dysphoria! Millicent Alexis Book returns to discuss sneeze pitches and community support! Everyone has feelings! (so weird)

Episode download: TTT062.mp3

MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1), Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 9, 2024

Run Time: 25:15
The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 1

Episode Number: 61

Tillyvision returns! Do you guys ever thing about dying? The BARBIE movie rocked my world, and I instantly connected with it on a fundamental level, even beyond the surface feminist story. Do you wanna know why? Do you wanna know why you saw so many trans people, especially trans women, talking about how much this movie meant to them and the tears it brought? My friends, it's because BARBIE is one hundo percent an intentional (?!) trans allegory! Come along on this 8-week journey as I show you all the inherent, beautiful transness within! This week: context, why it's Funny Pink MATRIX, the film's visual language, and we learn all about Barbie's world of lies! Pharmaceutical buyer Millicent Alexis Book joins us to discuss great moms and how the struggle is real!

Episode download: TTT061.mp3

MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
2023 Trans Rep in Media 1-3, Trans Intersectionality, Physical Representation (the Hollywood ideal), The False Dichotomy, Gendered Childhoods, Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1), Photos and Reflections

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Editor's Cut podcast episode 85, Barbie with Nick Houy, ACE - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/barbie-with-nick-houy-ace/id1412277324?i=1000640212163
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 2, 2024

Run Time: 40:11
Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1)

Episode Number: 60

There's something insidious growing inside the trans community: transmedicalism. It's exclusionary, it's harmful, it's gatekeeping, and it needs to stop. So let's talk about what it is, why it's so bad, and where in the heck it came from (the answer may (not) surprise you). Therapist, author, and gender specialist Dr. Alex Iantaffi returns to discuss how ubiquitous transmedicalism is in the field of trans care, as well as the ways we lift each other up and the importance of self-compassion. Our collective blood is boiling.

Episode download: TTT060.mp3

ALEX IANTAFFI
Insta: @xtaffi, @genderstories, @edginghearts
Website: alexiantaffi.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Day of Visibility (you are trans enough), Gender Dysphoria, Trans Kids (and the intake exam), Misgendering and Passing, Trans People in History, Internalized Transphobia

REFERENCE MATERIAL
My experience during the Trans Dark Ages - https://medium.com/@allisawash/quora-asked-me-about-my-experience-during-the-trans-dark-ages-648f060fa458

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 26, 2024

Run Time: 53:06
Gender Dysphoria

Episode Number: 59

How do you describe the indescribable, something so pervasive and yet so inscrutable? Join me as I tackle one of the biggest topics for many trans people, gender dysphoria. We're gonna talk about how there's no escaping it, and then see if I can put into words what it's like to live with. We're joined by therapist, author, and gender specialist Dr. Alex Iantaffi to discuss challenging the patriarchy, needing to see ourselves to find ourselves, and Sicilian bubble-butts!

Episode download: TTT059.mp3

ALEX IANTAFFI
Insta: @xtaffi, @genderstories, @edginghearts
Website: alexiantaffi.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Body Hair, Pandemic Transition, Privilege (time and money), Finding Our Trans Style, Boymode/Girlmode, Photos and Reflections, How Do You Know if You're Trans

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 19, 2024

Run Time: 54:09
Trans Microaggressions

Episode Number: 58

Didja ever notice how one little annoyance isn't a big deal, but if you get twenty of them in a day it's a problem? Doubly so when they're about your very identity? Every person from every marginalized community deals with this, and trans people are no exception. So let's talk about trans microaggressions, what they are, and why they're so awful. We've got lots of examples! Improv performer, cook, and thrifter extraordinaire April Kirby returns to discuss the masks we put up and coming out of the polybag! Are we all always learning to be more of a human? Nunya bizness!

Episode download: TTT058.mp3

APRIL KIRBY
Insta: @msaprilkirby
Mastodon: @aprilkirby@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia, Gendered Childhoods, Trans Intersectionality, Gender Dysphoria, Misgendering and Passing, Names and Pronouns, Cis is Not a Slur (there is no default human), Disentangling Sexuality from Transness, Cis People Get Gender Affirming Care Too, Photos and Reflections, The Only Trans Person You Know

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Lies and Dangers of Efforts to Change Sexual Orientation or Gender Identity - https://www.hrc.org/resources/the-lies-and-dangers-of-reparative-therapy

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 12, 2024

Run Time: 39:17
Implicit Queerphobia

Episode Number: 57

When trans and queer people obtain anything at all, like perhaps representation in media in the "League of Their Own" show, even those cishet folks who like to think of themselves as allies can push back. And that's due to the implicit biases society worms into us without our knowledge, and if you can't acknowledge you have those biases and work to fix them... nothing will ever get better for anyone. Improv actor, cook, and thrifter extraordinaire April Kirby joins us to discuss what it feels like to be alive! I didn't know this was a gay show??

Episode download: TTT057.mp3

APRIL KIRBY
Insta: @msaprilkirby
Mastodon: @aprilkirby@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Representation in Media 2022, Trans Representation in Media 2023, Internalized Transphobia, Cis is Not a Slur, Gendered Childhoods, Bad Representation, Good Representation, Trans Intersectionality, Proactive Allyship

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Mae Jemison Biography - https://www.womenshistory.org/education-resources/biographies/mae-jemison
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix-ebook/dp/B0C2MPVH9C/
These stories changed my life - https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/tv/story/2022-08-17/a-league-of-their-own-amazon-prime-video-cast
‘A League of Their Own’ Co-Creator on That Season 1 Ending and Season 2 Plans - https://www.thewrap.com/a-league-of-their-own-finale-ending-explained-season-2-story/
'A League of Their Own’ is based on the 1992 movie, but has an identity all its own - https://andscape.com/features/a-league-of-their-own-series/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 5, 2024

Run Time: 40:44
Trans Motivation

Episode Number: 56

There are so many tough things we have to get through, but when you find the right motivation you'll be amazed at what you can do. And when that motivation is to stay the true you and never go back? It's dang powerful, and you can do things you never thought possible. Systems trainer and medical tech consultant Jennifer Wallace returns to discuss feeling real! Where are the queers? I'm the gassy one!

Episode download: TTT056.mp3

JENN WALLACE
Mastodon: @itsjustjenn@beige.party

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Courage, Body Hacking, The Signs Were Always There (that we were trans), Trans Voices 1-3, Gender Dysphoria, Transition Setbacks, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Bodily Autonomy

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 27, 2024

Run Time: 26:37
Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo)

Episode Number: 55

A strange thing can happen when you're trans and don't know it... you never feel like your body actually belongs to you. And so you can't understand why anyone would ever want to make any changes to their bodies, and goodness did that all change for me after transition. And my tattoo is one hundred percent wrapped up in my transition, and we're gonna talk about why. And if you didn't already know, abortion rights and trans rights are the exact same fight. Everything comes back to bodily autonomy. Systems trainer and medical tech consultant Jennifer Wallace joins us to discuss The Tillyverse and the challenge of the unknown! (also I am a lot now)

Episode download: TTT055.mp3

JENN WALLACE
Mastodon: @itsjustjenn@beige.party

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Names and Pronouns, The False Dichotomy, Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it), Trans Grief 1 & 2, Gender Dysphoria, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), Freeing Up My Brain (lunch with Tilly), Photos 2: The Selfie Apocalypse, Trans Rage (stop forgetting about us).

REFERENCE MATERIAL
AMA from my first tattoo session - https://twitter.com/TillyBridges/status/1502394526593261568
AMA from my second tattoo session - https://twitter.com/TillyBridges/status/1507445986246881280

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 20, 2024

Run Time: 28:01
Trans Representation in 2023 media part 3: TV part 2

Episode Number: 54

It's the wrap-up of our discussion on trans rep in movies and tv in 2023! This week we have the rest of the discussion on television, and then see where things are at overall. Critic, journalist, and author Mo Ryan returns to discuss not being happy with crumbs anymore, and being gently radical!

This episode includes in-depth discussions on Our Flag Means Death, Quantum Leap, Somebody Somewhere, Star Trek: Strange New Worlds, Ted Lasso, Upload, Yellowjackets, and more!

Episode download: TTT054.mp3

MAUREEN "MO" RYAN
Instagram: @moryan66
Bluesky: @moryan.bsky.social
Threads: @moryan66
Website: moryan.com
Linktree: linktr.ee/maureenryan

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
2022 Trans Rep in Media (movies and tv), 2023 Trans Rep in Media 1: Movies, 2023 Trans Rep in Media 2: TV part 1

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Burn It Down: Power, Complicity, and a Call for Change in Hollywood - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/burn-it-down-maureen-ryan
A Troubling Trend in Cancellations: Are Inclusive Shows in Danger? - https://variety.com/2017/tv/opinion/canceled-shows-2017-sense8-get-down-underground-sweet-vicious-1202450885/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 13, 2024

Run Time: 55:46
Trans Representation in 2023 media part 2: TV part 1

Episode Number: 53

Okay, we talked about movies, so now it's time for the first half of our discussion on trans rep in television I saw in 2023! Critic, journalist, and author Mo Ryan returns to discuss the bad outcome factory, and how we should all avoid joining the bad person of the month club!

This episode includes in-depth discussions on Blue Eye Samurai, Foundation, Heartstopper, Monster High, Never Have I Ever, and more!

Episode download: TTT053.mp3

MAUREEN "MO" RYAN
Instagram: @moryan66
Bluesky: @moryan.bsky.social
Threads: @moryan66
Website: moryan.com
Linktree: linktr.ee/maureenryan

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
2023 Trans Rep in Media 1: Movies, Boymoding/Girlmoding

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Burn It Down: Power, Complicity, and a Call for Change in Hollywood - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/burn-it-down-maureen-ryan

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 6, 2024

Run Time: 50:32

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Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

Episode Archive

Unexpected Changes from Transition

Unexpected Bonuses of Transition

Four Year Retrospective

Boymode/Girlmode

Sexuality is Not Gender

A Trans Re-wedding

Cis Spousal and Partner Support

The 2022 US Trans Survey Results, part 2

The 2022 US Trans Survey Results, part 1

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 8

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 7

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 6

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 5

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 4

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 3

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 2

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 1

Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1)

Gender Dysphoria

Trans Microaggressions

Implicit Queerphobia

Trans Motivation

Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo)

Trans Representation in 2023 media part 3: TV part 2

Trans Representation in 2023 media part 2: TV part 1

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