Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

A weekly examination of trans life, trans representation in media, allyship, and even the broad basics of existing as a trans person in our society.

If you're looking for the text versions, please visit TillysTransTuesdays.com.

About The Show

When I publicly came out as trans, I was keenly aware of how much privilege I was giving up in transitioning from a white (seemingly) cis man to a white trans woman. But I was also very much aware of how much privilege I still had. Which is not to say femme white trans ladies have a lot of privilege in our society, but we certainly have more than every trans woman of color.

On top of that, so many trans people lose spouses, family, friends, homes, and jobs when we come out, and I basically lost none of that. So I remain remarkably more privileged than most trans women, and I recognize that and I wanted to USE it to help people.

I’m a writer, it’s what I do. So I had the thought that I would chronicle my transition, and talk about things cis people might never realize about society, and do what I could to take as much pressure off of other trans people as I could. I had no idea how long I’d be writing them, I thought I’d just talk until I ran out of things to talk about. But that never happened, because so many more things keep getting added to the list. Things I myself never even realized (and couldn’t have) until well into my transition.

So here we are, two and a half years after they started, and there’ve been over one hundred installments (this is 119!) and my mega 24-thread deep dive into the intentional trans allegories of the Matrix movies will be released as a book in the summer of 2023. And it’s that book that actually got me thinking about my Trans Tuesdays as a whole. I was a little hesitant to turn the Matrix threads into a book at first, even though many people who’ve read them have asked for exactly that.

But a very small percentage of the population is on social media, and a book could reach an entirely new audience of people. And so many people have told me how those Matrix threads, and these threads in general, have helped them. And that’s the whole reason I started these. I just want to help people. To be as much of a resource as I can. And that led me to the realization that these threads could reach a lot more people if they were also in another medium.

I don’t speak for all trans people. All I can give you is my own perspective. But with the podcast, now I can also give other trans people a platform to talk about these same issues, to share their thoughts on what being trans means to them.

I want to celebrate us, to share the beauty and complexity of our existence with the world. And whether you read on social media, read them from the website, or listen to the podcast (or all three!), thank you for joining me on this journey.

Tilly Bridges
Executive Producer
Pendant Productions

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Episode Archive

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 2

Episode Number: 62

The trans allegory of Barbie rolls on, Tillyvision can't be stopped! This week we talk about the cure for what ails us, Barbie's egg crack moment and her awakening to gender dysphoria! Millicent Alexis Book returns to discuss sneeze pitches and community support! Everyone has feelings! (so weird)

Episode download: TTT062.mp3

MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1), Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 9, 2024

Run Time: 25:15
The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 1

Episode Number: 61

Tillyvision returns! Do you guys ever thing about dying? The BARBIE movie rocked my world, and I instantly connected with it on a fundamental level, even beyond the surface feminist story. Do you wanna know why? Do you wanna know why you saw so many trans people, especially trans women, talking about how much this movie meant to them and the tears it brought? My friends, it's because BARBIE is one hundo percent an intentional (?!) trans allegory! Come along on this 8-week journey as I show you all the inherent, beautiful transness within! This week: context, why it's Funny Pink MATRIX, the film's visual language, and we learn all about Barbie's world of lies! Pharmaceutical buyer Millicent Alexis Book joins us to discuss great moms and how the struggle is real!

Episode download: TTT061.mp3

MILLICENT ALEXIS BOOK
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/mysticalalexis

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
2023 Trans Rep in Media 1-3, Trans Intersectionality, Physical Representation (the Hollywood ideal), The False Dichotomy, Gendered Childhoods, Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1), Photos and Reflections

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Editor's Cut podcast episode 85, Barbie with Nick Houy, ACE - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/barbie-with-nick-houy-ace/id1412277324?i=1000640212163
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 2, 2024

Run Time: 40:11
Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1)

Episode Number: 60

There's something insidious growing inside the trans community: transmedicalism. It's exclusionary, it's harmful, it's gatekeeping, and it needs to stop. So let's talk about what it is, why it's so bad, and where in the heck it came from (the answer may (not) surprise you). Therapist, author, and gender specialist Dr. Alex Iantaffi returns to discuss how ubiquitous transmedicalism is in the field of trans care, as well as the ways we lift each other up and the importance of self-compassion. Our collective blood is boiling.

Episode download: TTT060.mp3

ALEX IANTAFFI
Insta: @xtaffi, @genderstories, @edginghearts
Website: alexiantaffi.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Day of Visibility (you are trans enough), Gender Dysphoria, Trans Kids (and the intake exam), Misgendering and Passing, Trans People in History, Internalized Transphobia

REFERENCE MATERIAL
My experience during the Trans Dark Ages - https://medium.com/@allisawash/quora-asked-me-about-my-experience-during-the-trans-dark-ages-648f060fa458

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 26, 2024

Run Time: 53:06
Gender Dysphoria

Episode Number: 59

How do you describe the indescribable, something so pervasive and yet so inscrutable? Join me as I tackle one of the biggest topics for many trans people, gender dysphoria. We're gonna talk about how there's no escaping it, and then see if I can put into words what it's like to live with. We're joined by therapist, author, and gender specialist Dr. Alex Iantaffi to discuss challenging the patriarchy, needing to see ourselves to find ourselves, and Sicilian bubble-butts!

Episode download: TTT059.mp3

ALEX IANTAFFI
Insta: @xtaffi, @genderstories, @edginghearts
Website: alexiantaffi.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Body Hair, Pandemic Transition, Privilege (time and money), Finding Our Trans Style, Boymode/Girlmode, Photos and Reflections, How Do You Know if You're Trans

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 19, 2024

Run Time: 54:09
Trans Microaggressions

Episode Number: 58

Didja ever notice how one little annoyance isn't a big deal, but if you get twenty of them in a day it's a problem? Doubly so when they're about your very identity? Every person from every marginalized community deals with this, and trans people are no exception. So let's talk about trans microaggressions, what they are, and why they're so awful. We've got lots of examples! Improv performer, cook, and thrifter extraordinaire April Kirby returns to discuss the masks we put up and coming out of the polybag! Are we all always learning to be more of a human? Nunya bizness!

Episode download: TTT058.mp3

APRIL KIRBY
Insta: @msaprilkirby
Mastodon: @aprilkirby@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia, Gendered Childhoods, Trans Intersectionality, Gender Dysphoria, Misgendering and Passing, Names and Pronouns, Cis is Not a Slur (there is no default human), Disentangling Sexuality from Transness, Cis People Get Gender Affirming Care Too, Photos and Reflections, The Only Trans Person You Know

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Lies and Dangers of Efforts to Change Sexual Orientation or Gender Identity - https://www.hrc.org/resources/the-lies-and-dangers-of-reparative-therapy

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 12, 2024

Run Time: 39:17
Implicit Queerphobia

Episode Number: 57

When trans and queer people obtain anything at all, like perhaps representation in media in the "League of Their Own" show, even those cishet folks who like to think of themselves as allies can push back. And that's due to the implicit biases society worms into us without our knowledge, and if you can't acknowledge you have those biases and work to fix them... nothing will ever get better for anyone. Improv actor, cook, and thrifter extraordinaire April Kirby joins us to discuss what it feels like to be alive! I didn't know this was a gay show??

Episode download: TTT057.mp3

APRIL KIRBY
Insta: @msaprilkirby
Mastodon: @aprilkirby@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Representation in Media 2022, Trans Representation in Media 2023, Internalized Transphobia, Cis is Not a Slur, Gendered Childhoods, Bad Representation, Good Representation, Trans Intersectionality, Proactive Allyship

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Mae Jemison Biography - https://www.womenshistory.org/education-resources/biographies/mae-jemison
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix-ebook/dp/B0C2MPVH9C/
These stories changed my life - https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/tv/story/2022-08-17/a-league-of-their-own-amazon-prime-video-cast
‘A League of Their Own’ Co-Creator on That Season 1 Ending and Season 2 Plans - https://www.thewrap.com/a-league-of-their-own-finale-ending-explained-season-2-story/
'A League of Their Own’ is based on the 1992 movie, but has an identity all its own - https://andscape.com/features/a-league-of-their-own-series/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 5, 2024

Run Time: 40:44
Trans Motivation

Episode Number: 56

There are so many tough things we have to get through, but when you find the right motivation you'll be amazed at what you can do. And when that motivation is to stay the true you and never go back? It's dang powerful, and you can do things you never thought possible. Systems trainer and medical tech consultant Jennifer Wallace returns to discuss feeling real! Where are the queers? I'm the gassy one!

Episode download: TTT056.mp3

JENN WALLACE
Mastodon: @itsjustjenn@beige.party

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Courage, Body Hacking, The Signs Were Always There (that we were trans), Trans Voices 1-3, Gender Dysphoria, Transition Setbacks, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Bodily Autonomy

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 27, 2024

Run Time: 26:37
Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo)

Episode Number: 55

A strange thing can happen when you're trans and don't know it... you never feel like your body actually belongs to you. And so you can't understand why anyone would ever want to make any changes to their bodies, and goodness did that all change for me after transition. And my tattoo is one hundred percent wrapped up in my transition, and we're gonna talk about why. And if you didn't already know, abortion rights and trans rights are the exact same fight. Everything comes back to bodily autonomy. Systems trainer and medical tech consultant Jennifer Wallace joins us to discuss The Tillyverse and the challenge of the unknown! (also I am a lot now)

Episode download: TTT055.mp3

JENN WALLACE
Mastodon: @itsjustjenn@beige.party

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Names and Pronouns, The False Dichotomy, Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it), Trans Grief 1 & 2, Gender Dysphoria, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), Freeing Up My Brain (lunch with Tilly), Photos 2: The Selfie Apocalypse, Trans Rage (stop forgetting about us).

REFERENCE MATERIAL
AMA from my first tattoo session - https://twitter.com/TillyBridges/status/1502394526593261568
AMA from my second tattoo session - https://twitter.com/TillyBridges/status/1507445986246881280

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 20, 2024

Run Time: 28:01
Trans Representation in 2023 media part 3: TV part 2

Episode Number: 54

It's the wrap-up of our discussion on trans rep in movies and tv in 2023! This week we have the rest of the discussion on television, and then see where things are at overall. Critic, journalist, and author Mo Ryan returns to discuss not being happy with crumbs anymore, and being gently radical!

This episode includes in-depth discussions on Our Flag Means Death, Quantum Leap, Somebody Somewhere, Star Trek: Strange New Worlds, Ted Lasso, Upload, Yellowjackets, and more!

Episode download: TTT054.mp3

MAUREEN "MO" RYAN
Instagram: @moryan66
Bluesky: @moryan.bsky.social
Threads: @moryan66
Website: moryan.com
Linktree: linktr.ee/maureenryan

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
2022 Trans Rep in Media (movies and tv), 2023 Trans Rep in Media 1: Movies, 2023 Trans Rep in Media 2: TV part 1

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Burn It Down: Power, Complicity, and a Call for Change in Hollywood - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/burn-it-down-maureen-ryan
A Troubling Trend in Cancellations: Are Inclusive Shows in Danger? - https://variety.com/2017/tv/opinion/canceled-shows-2017-sense8-get-down-underground-sweet-vicious-1202450885/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 13, 2024

Run Time: 55:46
Trans Representation in 2023 media part 2: TV part 1

Episode Number: 53

Okay, we talked about movies, so now it's time for the first half of our discussion on trans rep in television I saw in 2023! Critic, journalist, and author Mo Ryan returns to discuss the bad outcome factory, and how we should all avoid joining the bad person of the month club!

This episode includes in-depth discussions on Blue Eye Samurai, Foundation, Heartstopper, Monster High, Never Have I Ever, and more!

Episode download: TTT053.mp3

MAUREEN "MO" RYAN
Instagram: @moryan66
Bluesky: @moryan.bsky.social
Threads: @moryan66
Website: moryan.com
Linktree: linktr.ee/maureenryan

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
2023 Trans Rep in Media 1: Movies, Boymoding/Girlmoding

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Burn It Down: Power, Complicity, and a Call for Change in Hollywood - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/burn-it-down-maureen-ryan

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 6, 2024

Run Time: 50:32
Trans Representation in 2023 media part 1: Movies

Episode Number: 52

Over the course of 2023 I took notes on every single movie and tv show I watched, to bring you my three-part report on 2023 trans rep in media! We're going to discuss the good, the bad, and just how often there was nothing at all to discuss. This week: movies! Critic, journalist, and author Maureen Ryan joins us to discuss the demystification of Hollywood and who's insulated from career blowback.

This episode includes in-depth discussions on Barbie, Elemental, Joyride, Monica, Nimona, and more!

Episode download: TTT052.mp3

MAUREEN "MO" RYAN
Instagram: @moryan66
Bluesky: @moryan.bsky.social
Threads: @moryan66
Website: moryan.com
Linktree: linktr.ee/maureenryan

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Bad Representation, Good Representation, The Intentional Trans Allegory of "Part of Your World," Trans People in History, Chasers and the Fetishization of Trans Women, Trans Voices 1-3, Trans Roles and Stories, The Unintentional Trans Allegory of Silo s1, Implicit Queerphobia

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Burn It Down: Power, Complicity, and a Call for Change in Hollywood - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/burn-it-down-maureen-ryan
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix/dp/B0BYPFFBGH
The Deeper Meaning Behind Nimona’s Shape-Shifting Story - https://time.com/6291748/nimona-shape-shifting-trans/
The Power of Pink: How ‘Nimona’ Uses Color to Subvert Stereotypes and Embrace Self-Expression - https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/movies/movie-features/nimona-production-design-pink-acceptance-1235527657/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: January 30, 2023

Run Time: 58:10
The Only Trans Person You Know

Episode Number: 51

Trans people are a small percentage of the population, though there's actually more than any reports can show. But that means for many cis people out there, if you know a trans person, they're probably the only trans person you know. They're probably the only trans person a LOT of people know. Which means we're constantly getting bombarded with questions (or worse) about our existence from all sides, and the cumulative effect of that can be a problem. Writer/costume designer Aoife Baker returns to discuss stilettos as murder weapons!

Episode download: TTT051.mp3

AOIFE BAKER
Twitter: @vivaciousvandal
Instagram: @vivaciousvandal
Bluesky: @vivaciousvandal

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Politics, Why I Do Trans Tuesdays, Trans Kids (and the intake exam)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
About 5% of young adults in the U.S. say their gender is different from their sex assigned at birth - https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2022/06/07/about-5-of-young-adults-in-the-u-s-say-their-gender-is-different-from-their-sex-assigned-at-birth/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: January 23, 2024

Run Time: 27:01
Gendered Childhoods

Episode Number: 50

A lot of people don't realize how children in our society are bombarded with the "right" and "wrong" ways to be a certain gender, or just how compulsory being a cisgender heterosexual person is. And this damages all kids in all kinds of ways, and makes life much more difficult for trans kids. Writer and costume designer Aoife Baker joins us to discuss hot lady assassins and how we as a society should be beyond urinal cakes!

Episode download: TTT050.mp3

AOIFE BAKER
Twitter: @vivaciousvandal
Instagram: @vivaciousvandal
Bluesky: @vivaciousvandal

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Grief 1 and 2, The False Dichotomy, Unexpected Bonuses of Transition, Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
When Did Girls Start Wearing Pink? - https://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/when-did-girls-start-wearing-pink-1370097/
The History of Hallmark Christmas Movies - https://anhistorianabouttown.com/the-history-of-hallmark-christmas-movies/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: January 16, 2023

Run Time: 38:26
Trans Grief 2 (aka The Past 3, aka The New Past 2)

Episode Number: 49

Okay, so you know that I received the AI-generated yearbook photos of a younger me that didn't get to exist... but what you don't know is what they did to me. So we're gonna discuss it, in depth, and the history that wasn't. And it's going to be hard, but something important happened and we need to talk about it. Housewife and writer Miriam Robern returns to discuss being a transbian tradwife! We are hot dorks.

This concludes season one! Thank you all so much for listening, I hope this show has helped you in some way, and maybe made you feel less alone. We'll be back for season two in mid-January!

Episode download: TTT049.mp3

MIRIAM ROBERN
Mastodon: @miriamrobern@dice.camp
Website: miriamrobern.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Grief 1, Compliments

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Tilly's Starfield playthrough thread w/ screenshots on Mastodon - https://mastodon.social/@tillybridges/111055523953427528
Tilly's Starfield playthrough thread w/screenshots on Twitter - https://twitter.com/TillyBridges/status/1701787089023783361
Mimsy's High School Story - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jkBgQtqcUw
Tilly's Progesterone Dream Theater posts on Twitter - https://tinyurl.com/TillysPDT

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: December 19, 2023

Run Time: 32:48
Trans Grief 1 (aka The Past 3, aka The New Past 2)

Episode Number: 48

I'm not generally a supporter of AI for most things (it isn't even really AI anyway), and yet I cannot deny the impact it's had upon the trans community. So I wanted to write about it, but what I didn't realize is that what I was really writing about is the past and why it's so complicated for people who transition as adults. And what happens when we can get a glimpse of... a new past? A world that was perhaps more kind to us? We're gonna dig in to the most difficult two trans tuesdays I've ever had to write, because it means confronting really hard stuff. Writer and housewife Miriam Robern joins us to discuss clarity, boobs, and looking like our moms!

Episode download: TTT048.mp3

MIRIAM ROBERN
Mastodon: @miriamrobern@dice.camp
Website: miriamrobern.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
What is Happening (aka a whole new world), Freeing Up My Brain (aka lunch with Tilly), Proactive Allyship (be an accomplice), Three Year Retrospective, Bodily Autonomy (my tattoo), The Past and Why it Haunts US, The Past 2: The New Past (KJ and Paper Girls), Gender Dysphoria, Misgendering and Passing

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Can Artificial Intelligence Help See Cancer in New, and Better, Ways? - https://www.cancer.gov/news-events/cancer-currents-blog/2022/artificial-intelligence-cancer-imaging
Stained Glass Woman: Growing Up Broken - https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/growing-up-broken

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: December 12, 2023

Run Time: 34:05
Trans Voices 3: Interview with Speech-language Pathologist Jein Yi

Episode Number: 47

It's the final episode of our series on trans voices... an interview with the speech-language pathologist that I saw for my gender-affirming speech therapy! We're going to get into the science behind it all, why AMAB and AFAB voices sound different and what it really takes to change them. It takes a long time and a lot of work, but if you're dedicated and put in the effort (with safe and certified instruction), amazing things can happen. Do you... adore the lore behind Al Gore?

Episode download: TTT047.mp3

JEIN YI
Instagram: @affirmvoice

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Voices 1: Gendering, Trans Voices 2: Hearing the True You

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: December 5, 2023

Run Time: 46:46
Trans Voices 2: Hearing the True You

Episode Number: 46

We continue our discussion of voice, and what that means when you're transgender. This week we discuss my full gender-affirming speech therapy experience, when is the right time to work on pitch, D-I-S-T-E-R-B, and you get to hear a voice timeline... of me saying the exact same thing, from pre-transition, through every stage of speech therapy, on to where I'm at now. It might blow your mind (it certainly did mine). Sound editor Jillian Morgan returns to discuss becoming comfortable with your trans identity and learning how to smile! And folks, please be sure... that if you're doing voice training on your own, you check the credentials of who you're listening to!

Episode download: TTT046.mp3

JILLIAN MORGAN
https://linktr.ee/audiojillian

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
What is My Style, Trans Voices 1: Gendering, The Unintentional (?) Trans Allegory of Silo s1

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix audiobook - https://www.audible.com/pd/Begin-Transmission-Audiobook/B0CKLWLPDQ
5 year voice transition timeline - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2txYhkmhVts

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: November 28, 2023

Run Time: 36:44
Trans Voices 1: Gendering

Episode Number: 45

So many of us trans people struggle with our voices. They might spike our dysphoria, or cause us to get misgendered, or just not sound like US. So this week we kick off a three week series all about voice! In this episode, we're going to talk about how incredibly gendered voices are in our society, what that does to us, and how to approach that if you're seeking out gender-affirming voice therapy. Our lovely sound editor Jillian Morgan joins us once again to discuss fabulous cis wives, and the parts of this show that you'll never get to hear. My tummy!

Episode download: TTT045.mp3

JILLIAN MORGAN
https://linktr.ee/audiojillian

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Misgendering and Passing, Proactive Allyship (be an accomplice), Trans Kids and the Intake Exam

REFERENCE MATERIAL
When I Hear a Trans Woman's Voice by Ari Drennen - https://twitter.com/AriDrennen/status/1385976409043001347

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: November 21, 2023

Run Time: 30:55
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 9

Episode Number: 44

We made it! This is the final episode of our discussion of the trans allegory of Silo s1 on AppleTV+! And we're talking all about the season finale, and how the ending maybe doesn't mean what you think it means. We're gonna talk about how even those at the top buy into the lie, and how we need solidarity and community because we can't do it alone. The sagacious Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss how hate and bigotry are taught. And hey... we can't be friends if you're stepping on my neck.

Episode download: TTT044.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans People Are Human Beings (stop staring at us), Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Cis Grief

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/
The LALGBT Center's Trans Wellness Center - https://mytranswellness.org/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: November 14, 2023

Run Time: 23:20
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 8

Episode Number: 43

It's the penultimate episode of our discussion of the trans allegory of Silo season 1 on AppleTV+! This week we discuss how it's socially acceptable to hide your queerness, how the rules only apply to the oppressed and not the oppressors, and how if you're not fighting alongside us for our rights you're an integral part of the power structure that oppresses us. The luminous Samantha Cuddy returns to discucss, and we get a big confirmation of one of my theories!

Episode download: TTT043.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Constant Fight, Cis Grief

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: November 7, 2023

Run Time: 19:02
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 7

Episode Number: 42

It's part seven of our examination of the trans allegory of Silo season 1 on AppleTV+! This week we talk about the importance of chosen family, how we're not allowed to have knowledge society doesn't approve of, and how we're saddled with obligations to keep us too busy and exhausted to examine the big questions. Oh, and rabbits! The junoesque Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss how trans people have to be our own amateur lawyers and endocrinologists! And hey... toxic bigots don't deserve to be in your life just because they share your genetic material.

Episode download: TTT042.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Cis Grief

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix-ebook/dp/B0C2MPVH9C/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: October 31, 2023

Run Time: 17:32
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 6

Episode Number: 41

We're in the back half of season one of Silo from AppleTV+, and it only gets transier from here! This week we talk about how power is used to control communication and information, rewards for conforming to the false cis binary, and you guessed it... SUPERtext! The pulchritudinous Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss how little of our own lives we remember due to dissociation! And hey... don't be on the nazis' side.

Episode download: TTT041.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Constant Fight, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), Freeing Up My Brain (Lunch with TIlly), False Allyship, Why I Do Trans Tuesdays (expansion and podcast)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/
Most state bans on gender-affirming care for trans youth still allow controversial intersex surgery - https://www.pbs.org/newshour/health/most-state-bans-on-gender-affirming-care-for-trans-youth-still-allow-controversial-intersex-surgery

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: October 24, 2023

Run Time: 16:44
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 5

Episode Number: 40

Today we're jumping right in to possibly the single transiest episode of the entire first season of Silo on AppleTV+! We're gonna talk about forbidden questions, and The Big Question, and dysphoria, and bringing order from chaos... and what you do when you discover your entire life has been a lie. The out of this world Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss puppets of society!

Episode download: TTT040.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans People Have Always Existed, Cis People Get Gender Affirming Healthcare Too, Gender Dysphoria, The Past and Why it Haunts Us

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: October 17, 2023

Run Time: 24:13
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 4

Episode Number: 39

More about the trans allegory of Silo on AppleTV+? You better believe it! This week we cover episodes 4 and 5 of the show, and we're gonna talk about trans childhood trauma, eggs cracking, and how the truth can unlock the doors in front of you. Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss how this is *your* journey! We're spreadin' the sensational around!

Episode download: TTT039.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Past (and why it haunts us), Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it), Cis People Get Gender Affirming Healthcare Too

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/
Shakespeare gets caught in Florida's 'Don't Say Gay' laws - https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-politics-and-policy/shakespeare-gets-caught-floridas-dont-say-gay-laws-rcna98970
Texas Republicans Seem Hell-Bent on Turning K–12 Schools Into Churches - https://www.vanityfair.com/news/2023/04/texas-republican-turning-k-12-schools-into-churches

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: October 10, 2023

Run Time: 25:07
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 3

Episode Number: 38

The deep-dive into the trans allegory of Silo on AppleTV+ continues! This week we cover episodes 2 and 3 of the show, and discuss the importance (and fear) of water and what it means, we begin the search for the truth (about society and about ourselves), how trans people and schematics are connected, and the hypocrisy of denying trans people things cis people get without question. Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss the importance of sharing stories! Oh, and say hello to my old friend SUPERtext!

Episode download: TTT038.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Cis Grief, Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it), Cis People Get Gender Affirming Healthcare Too,

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: October 3, 2023

Run Time: 30:17

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Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

Episode Archive

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 2

The Trans Allegory of Barbie, part 1

Transmedicalism (and WPATH soc 1)

Gender Dysphoria

Trans Microaggressions

Implicit Queerphobia

Trans Motivation

Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo)

Trans Representation in 2023 media part 3: TV part 2

Trans Representation in 2023 media part 2: TV part 1

Trans Representation in 2023 media part 1: Movies

The Only Trans Person You Know

Gendered Childhoods

Trans Grief 2 (aka The Past 3, aka The New Past 2)

Trans Grief 1 (aka The Past 3, aka The New Past 2)

Trans Voices 3: Interview with Speech-language Pathologist Jein Yi

Trans Voices 2: Hearing the True You

Trans Voices 1: Gendering

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 9

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 8

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 7

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 6

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 5

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 4

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 3

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