Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

A weekly examination of trans life, trans representation in media, allyship, and even the broad basics of existing as a trans person in our society.

If you're looking for the social media/Google doc versions, please visit TillysTransTuesdays.com.

About The Show

When I publicly came out as trans, I was keenly aware of how much privilege I was giving up in transitioning from a white (seemingly) cis man to a white trans woman. But I was also very much aware of how much privilege I still had. Which is not to say femme white trans ladies have a lot of privilege in our society, but we certainly have more than every trans woman of color.

On top of that, so many trans people lose spouses, family, friends, homes, and jobs when we come out, and I basically lost none of that. So I remain remarkably more privileged than most trans women, and I recognize that and I wanted to USE it to help people.

I’m a writer, it’s what I do. So I had the thought that I would chronicle my transition, and talk about things cis people might never realize about society, and do what I could to take as much pressure off of other trans people as I could. I had no idea how long I’d be writing them, I thought I’d just talk until I ran out of things to talk about. But that never happened, because so many more things keep getting added to the list. Things I myself never even realized (and couldn’t have) until well into my transition.

So here we are, two and a half years after they started, and there’ve been over one hundred installments (this is 119!) and my mega 24-thread deep dive into the intentional trans allegories of the Matrix movies will be released as a book in the summer of 2023. And it’s that book that actually got me thinking about my Trans Tuesdays as a whole. I was a little hesitant to turn the Matrix threads into a book at first, even though many people who’ve read them have asked for exactly that.

But a very small percentage of the population is on social media, and a book could reach an entirely new audience of people. And so many people have told me how those Matrix threads, and these threads in general, have helped them. And that’s the whole reason I started these. I just want to help people. To be as much of a resource as I can. And that led me to the realization that these threads could reach a lot more people if they were also in another medium.

I don’t speak for all trans people. All I can give you is my own perspective. But with the podcast, now I can also give other trans people a platform to talk about these same issues, to share their thoughts on what being trans means to them.

I want to celebrate us, to share the beauty and complexity of our existence with the world. And whether you read on social media, read them from the website, or listen to the podcast (or all three!), thank you for joining me on this journey.

Tilly Bridges
Executive Producer
Pendant Productions

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Episode Archive

Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People

Episode Number: 15

Clothes, clothes, clothes! The friend, and enemy, of every trans person. Why are they so dang heavily gendered and weird? Why are men's clothes so bland? What the heck is up with pockets (or lack thereof) and buttons (and the side-switching thereof)?! Ezekiel Strange joins us once again, and he encourages you to ~See the Wizards~! We're also gonna talk about what trans men and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles have in common, and British/European F-boys. I'm a popsicle, and I have no butt!

Episode download: TTT015.mp3

EZEKIEL STRANGE
Twitter: @ohheymonsterboy
Nox Hill webcomic: noxhillcomic.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Fear of Embracing Your True Self (Halloween, makeup, hair dye), Unexpected Bonuses of Transition, Gender Euphoria, The False Dichotomy, Trans Body Hacking, Photos 2 (the selfie apocalypse, aka the new gender dysphoria/euphoria)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Beau Brummell Wasn’t a Hero of Modern Men’s Fashion. He Was a Villain. A Boring, Uptight Villain.
The Politics of Pockets
Here’s Why Men’s and Women’s Clothes Button on Opposite Sides

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 11, 2023

Run Time: 37:26
The Erasure of Trans Men

Episode Number: 14

This should come as no surprise, but trans men exist. They're real human beings, actually! So why are they so often forgotten, both in ways that harm them and that harm the rest of the trans community? The answer may not surprise you, and involves willful ignorance. We're joined by astounding artist Ezekiel Strange to discuss this very important topic, and also how failing upward is not aspirational and how men's bathrooms are gross (it's true). Remember that even if it's scary, you can do it, and you're not the first one to go through it. I can't be contained!

Episode download: TTT014.mp3

EZEKIEL STRANGE
Twitter: @ohheymonsterboy
Nox Hill webcomic: noxhillcomic.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Rage (stop forgetting about us), Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo), Trans Intersectionality, Trans Rep in Media 2022, Trans Sports

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 4, 2023

Run Time: 39:12
Trans Day of Visibility (am I trans enough?)

Episode Number: 13

Visibility is a double-edged sword. We need to be out to be seen and respected, but doing so puts a target on our back to the bigoted portions of the population. Further complicating things is not just the gatekeeping done by some gas station hot dogs within the trans community, but the gatekeeping that we do to ourselves. We're joined by Melissa Hearne to discuss how acknowledging the binaries helps us find the space between them, and how you get to be who you are, and nobody else gets to tell you who that is.

Episode download: TTT013.mp3

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Sexuality is not Gender, The Signs Were Always There (that we're trans), Body Hacking, Gender Dysphoria

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 28, 2023

Run Time: 23:07
Finding Our Own Representation - P!nk

Episode Number: 12

Trans representation (and rep for people from all marginalized communities) is sparse, and when it does happen it's often harmful. And so we have to look elsewhere to see ourselves reflected in our media, and that's what finding our own representation is all about. And we're going to discuss a very personal and meaningful bit of art I've found my own representation in, P!nk. And that involves me spilling my soul and feeling really exposed, so... hope you're ready for that! We're joined by Melissa Hearne to discuss what being genderfluid means to them, how being us helps others be themselves, and how you can wake up each day and just be whatever you want to be.

Episode download: TTT012.mp3

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The False Dichotomy, The New Past (finding our own representation, KJ and Paper Girls)

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 21, 2023

Run Time: 36:23
The False Dichotomy

Episode Number: 11

So what the heck is the false dichotomy? It's opposing options that are presented as the ONLY options, it permeates absolutely every part of our society, and it harms all of us, even cis people. But don't buy into it! Life doesn't fit into neat little boxes, nor should it. Library Girl Mina Martinez Oldham joins us again, and we also discuss the importance of being seen and how playing is part of experimenting... and also cute non-binary librarians, culinary cruelty, and how trans women go where no man has gone before. Oh, also? I'm sunshine!

Episode download: TTT011.mp3

MINA MARTINEZ OLDHAM
library-girl.com
minaoldham.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
T*RFs (trans exclusionary radical feminists, aka transphobic bigots), Body Hacking

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 14, 2023

Run Time: 26:26
Trans Intersectionality

Episode Number: 10

Intersectionality! It's vital for every marginalized community, including us trans folks. But guess what? It doesn't (and can't) only apply to us, and people from other marginalized communities need US to be intersectional, too. We don't need to hurt others just to stand up for ourselves. We're joined by the Library Girl, Mina Martinez Oldham, to remind you that you support people from other marginalized communities is by listening to them, and believing them... just like we need cis people to do for us. You're also gonna learn how eggs recognize eggs, how coming out never ends, and how my breasts are perfect (listen, they just are).

Episode download: TTT010.mp3

MINA MARTINEZ OLDHAM
library-girl.com
minaoldham.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Privilege (in general, and that of cis people), Privilege (mine), The Only Trans Person You Know

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 7, 2023

Run Time: 32:01
Trans Body Hacking

Episode Number: 9

Body hacking?! You better believe it. And we all do it, trans and cis alike. Learn all about it and gain a better understanding of how we're all really more alike than you might think. We're again joined by Jack Knoxville of the Trans Empowerment Project, and we're here to remind you there's no roadmap to transition. Everyone's on their own journey, and yours is valid whatever it may be. And hey, you also get to learn about capes and Spider-Man, and how I very much like being alive!

Episode download: TTT009.mp3

JACK KNOXVILLE
Twitter: @jacktivism101, @trans_empowered
jackknoxville.com, transempowerment.org

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Hormone Replacement Therapy (and patience), Freeing Up My Brain (aka Lunch with Tilly), Gender Euphoria, Gender Dysphoria, The Intentional Trans Allegories of The Matrix

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 28, 2023

Run Time: 30:43
False Allyship

Episode Number: 8

What happens when allies aren't allies? What happens when their allyship is only performative? And what happens when it goes a step further, and becomes not just performative but also outright transphobic? You're gonna find out! We're joined by Jack Knoxville of the Trans Empowerment Project, and talk about clothing swaps, how being called on your bigotry is not equal to your actual bigotry, and how trans people are all such badasses (it's true!). And cis friends, remember that when you see transphobia, saying nothing makes it worse. We don't need you to be perfect, we just need you to TRY. Ask how to help if you're not sure!

Episode download: TTT008.mp3

JACK KNOXVILLE
Twitter: @jacktivism101, @trans_empowered
jackknoxville.com, transempowerment.org

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
No Escape 2 (some escape due to cis allyship), Performative Allyship, What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like, Implicit Queerphobia

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 21, 2023

Run Time: 43:47
Interview with Quantum Leap writer Shakina

Episode Number: 7

It's our interview with writer/director/actor Shakina, all about the recent episode she wrote for the Quantum Leap reboot, episode 112 "Let Them Play." We discuss taking the episode from concept to screen, cis folks wanting to mine trans people's trauma for story drama, living portraits, and just how special and vital this very trans episode was, and WHY it's so important and why this kind of representation matters across the board. You're also going to learn the absolutely vital difference between allies and accomplices. And hey... don't be a garbage goblin.

Episode download: TTT007.mp3

SHAKINA
Twitter: @Shakeenz
Insta: @Shakeenz
shakina.nyc

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Freeing Up Brain Space (aka lunch with Tilly), Confidence 2 (into the unknown), Trans Roles and Stories

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 14, 2023

Run Time: 35:59
The Signs Were Always There

Episode Number: 6

This week we’re going to take a personal look into my past to look at how the signs we're trans were always there, even when we refused to see them. There’s no other way to say this than… this is gonna be embarrassing. For me. And hey, sometimes you out yourself post-transition without even realizing it, but that's okay, because trans is a process. We're joined once again by Laser, who is great and makes great things! His new solo album Overreacting is out February 10, and we've got a special preview of The Way That You Look At Me, a new track from the album (Nate the scientist says hi)!

Episode download: TTT006.mp3

LASER
Twitter: @lasertheboy
Insta: @lasertheboy
TikTok: @lasertheboy
Pre-order Overreacting: lasertheboy.com
Watch the musical: teachingarobottolove.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Past and Why it Haunts Us, Parents Who Will Never Know the Real You (my dad), How to Know if You're Trans (still cis tho), The Fear of Embracing Your True Self, Unexpected Bonuses (of transition), Giving Yourself Permission (to explore)

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 7, 2023

Run Time: 23:08
What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like

Episode Number: 5

This week’s topic is one that’s really important and involves the cis folks out there just as much as it involves any transgender person. We’re talking about What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like (and cis folks, please spread the word on this)! We're joined by the multi-talented Laser, whose new solo album Overreacting is out February 10! Remember: trans is just another kind of woman you can be, and every trans person is valid. YES, even YOU. You'll also learn about the lexicon of maleness, bros starting fires, and how no one has a writing career anymore!

Episode download: TTT005.mp3

LASER
Twitter: @lasertheboy
Insta: @lasertheboy
TikTok: @lasertheboy
Pre-order Overreacting: lasertheboy.com
Watch the musical: teachingarobottolove.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Gender Dysphoria, Trans Rage, Cis Apathy, Transitioning During a Pandemic, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Anti-trans Laws are on the Rise - Washington Post, Oct. 14, 2022

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: January 31, 2023

Run Time: 23:36
Trans Roles and Stories

Episode Number: 4

This week is all about trans roles in media, and trans stories... also in media (that's where stories go, I don't make the rules). Rather than discussing specific stories and roles, we're going to talk about who gets to tell those stories, and who gets to play those roles, and why. Is my voice still sore? Yes. Will you notice? Also yes. We're joined by actress and certified funny lady Eileen Noonan (her webseries Smoosh is coming soon!), and hey... Chris Hemsworth's arms are feminist icons!

Episode download: TTT004.mp3

EILEEN NOONAN
Twitter: @eileenmnoonan
Insta: @eileenmnoonan
TikTok: @eileenmnoonan
Facebook: Eileen M. Noonan
Smoosh webseries site: smoosh.website

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Bad Representation, The Intentional Trans Allegories of the Matrix franchise, The Intentional (?) Trans Allegory of The Little Mermaid's "Part of Your World," The Intentional Trans Allegory of Real Genius, The Intentional (?) Trans Allegory of The Twilight Zone's "Nervous Man in a Four Dollar Room"

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: January 24, 2023

Run Time: 35:12
Trans Representation in 2022 media

Episode Number: 3

It's our trans rep in 2022 media retrospective, covering the good, the bad, and the confusing trans (and trans-adjacent) content across 20+ movies and 60+ seasons of television I saw last year! There's also talk about when transition ends, and discussion about how we all smell (wouldn't you like to know). Apologies for my scratchy voice, we recorded this the day after I ran a TTPRG game and talked for an entire afternoon, and it shows. This week we're joined by comic writer supreme, Lilah Sturges (her book "The Science of Ghosts" is out later this year!). We're gonna push it to 14 and get Spock ears for everyone, do not question the Blahaj!

Specific media discussed: Bros, Thor Love and Thunder, Wendell and Wild, Cobra Kai, The Expanse, The Flight Attendant, Gentleman Jack, I Am Groot, A League of Their Own, Loot, Los Espookys, Never Have I Ever, Only Murders in the Building, Our Flag Means Death, Paper Girls, The Peripheral, Queer as Folk, Reservation Dogs, Resident Alien, Russian Doll, Rutherford Falls, Severance, She-Hulk, Star Trek Discovery, Star Trek Prodigy, Star Trek Strange New Worlds, Upload, Wellington Paranormal, Westworld, Quantum Leap, Heartstopper

Episode download: TTT003.mp3

LILAH STURGES
Twitter: @LilahSturges
Instagram: @tralalilah

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Bad Representation, Good Representation, Trans People in History, Implicit Queerphobia (wrt A League of Their Own), The New Past/Finding Our Own Representation (wrt to KJ and Paper Girls)

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: January 17, 2023

Run Time: 1:02:09
The Past, and Why it Haunts Us

Episode Number: 2

This week we’re discussing something that likely haunts every trans person who transitions as an adult. Hop in your chair and initiate splinter sequence, because it’s time to talk about: THE PAST. There's also talk of Rocky Horror, bows, Pooh bears, leisure suits (?), and Susan absolutely blows Tilly's mind with an observation on her lifelong love of Superman! We're joined once again by that queen of the audio realm, Jillian Morgan!

Episode download: TTT002.mp3

JILLIAN MORGAN
https://linktr.ee/audiojillian

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Clothes, Disentangling Sexuality from Gender, Dysphoria, Hair (and Hair 2), Photos (and Photos 2)

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: January 10, 2023

Run Time: 35:30
Intro!

Episode Number: 1

What the heck are Tilly's Trans Tuesdays? It's trans stuff! All kinds of stuff! About being trans. There are more details, but those are in the episode. That's why we made it. And we're joined by audio maven/radio veteran extraordinaire, Jillian Morgan! You'll also find out how to (correctly or incorrectly) say "amuse-bouche!"

Episode download: TTT001.mp3

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

JILLIAN MORGAN
https://linktr.ee/audiojillian

Release Date: January 3, 2023

Run Time: 16:53

Main menu

Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

Episode Archive

Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People

The Erasure of Trans Men

Trans Day of Visibility (am I trans enough?)

Finding Our Own Representation - P!nk

The False Dichotomy

Trans Intersectionality

Trans Body Hacking

False Allyship

Interview with Quantum Leap writer Shakina

The Signs Were Always There

What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like

Trans Roles and Stories

Trans Representation in 2022 media

The Past, and Why it Haunts Us

Intro!

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