Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

A weekly examination of trans life, trans representation in media, allyship, and even the broad basics of existing as a trans person in our society.

If you're looking for the social media/Google doc versions, please visit TillysTransTuesdays.com.

About The Show

When I publicly came out as trans, I was keenly aware of how much privilege I was giving up in transitioning from a white (seemingly) cis man to a white trans woman. But I was also very much aware of how much privilege I still had. Which is not to say femme white trans ladies have a lot of privilege in our society, but we certainly have more than every trans woman of color.

On top of that, so many trans people lose spouses, family, friends, homes, and jobs when we come out, and I basically lost none of that. So I remain remarkably more privileged than most trans women, and I recognize that and I wanted to USE it to help people.

I’m a writer, it’s what I do. So I had the thought that I would chronicle my transition, and talk about things cis people might never realize about society, and do what I could to take as much pressure off of other trans people as I could. I had no idea how long I’d be writing them, I thought I’d just talk until I ran out of things to talk about. But that never happened, because so many more things keep getting added to the list. Things I myself never even realized (and couldn’t have) until well into my transition.

So here we are, two and a half years after they started, and there’ve been over one hundred installments (this is 119!) and my mega 24-thread deep dive into the intentional trans allegories of the Matrix movies will be released as a book in the summer of 2023. And it’s that book that actually got me thinking about my Trans Tuesdays as a whole. I was a little hesitant to turn the Matrix threads into a book at first, even though many people who’ve read them have asked for exactly that.

But a very small percentage of the population is on social media, and a book could reach an entirely new audience of people. And so many people have told me how those Matrix threads, and these threads in general, have helped them. And that’s the whole reason I started these. I just want to help people. To be as much of a resource as I can. And that led me to the realization that these threads could reach a lot more people if they were also in another medium.

I don’t speak for all trans people. All I can give you is my own perspective. But with the podcast, now I can also give other trans people a platform to talk about these same issues, to share their thoughts on what being trans means to them.

I want to celebrate us, to share the beauty and complexity of our existence with the world. And whether you read on social media, read them from the website, or listen to the podcast (or all three!), thank you for joining me on this journey.

Tilly Bridges
Executive Producer
Pendant Productions

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Episode Archive

Privilege (time and money)

Episode Number: 32

Transitioning takes self-reflection, and courage, and self love... but it also takes time, and money, and often a lot of both. That's a privilege not a lot of trans people have, and we're gonna talk about how that can complicate things. Screenwriter Max Luque joins us to discuss new jeans, and how things are weird and uncomfortable all the time.

Episode download: TTT032.mp3

MAX LUQUE
Insta: @max.luque

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Erasure of Trans Men, Trans Intersectionality, What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like, Body Hacking, Three Year Retrospective, HRT, Voice, Voice 2, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Expansion (the future of Trans Tuesdays), Gender Dysphoria

REFERENCE MATERIAL
LGBT Poverty in the United States - https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/lgbt-poverty-us/
Trans GoFundMes - https://www.gofundme.com/mvc.php?route=homepage_norma/search&term=transgender

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: August 22, 2023

Run Time: 31:12
Confidence

Episode Number: 31

When your every waking moment is dysphoric, being seen can make things so much worse. So we find ways to make ourselves smaller, to go unnoticed... until we transition and maybe everything changes. Artist and activist Leo Wright returns to discuss doing drag while trans, trans trenders, and mind-flipping. Are you jealous of my eyelashes? You should be!

Episode download: TTT031.mp3

LEO WRIGHT
Insta: @leonardodavagrant

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Intersectionality, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), The Intentional Trans Allegories of The Matrix, Gender Dysphoria, Freeing Up My Brain (aka Lunch with Tilly), That Old Dysphoric Feeling (transphobia is always with us), The Signs Were Always There

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: August 15, 2023

Run Time: 36:15
Cis is Not a Slur

Episode Number: 30

There are some people out there (dunderheads, let's say) who believe "cis" is a slur and not just an accurate descriptor. They're entirely wrong, and not only do I have the proof, I know exactly why their undies are in a wad over it. The answer may not surprise you! Artist and activist Leo Wright joins us to discuss gender attachments and social upheaval! Card-carrying queers, boxes being no good, sea lioning, the motte and bailey fallacy... we've got it all.

Episode download: TTT030.mp3

LEO WRIGHT
Insta: @leonardodavagrant

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
T*RFs

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The transphobic war on the word "cis" goes back an entire decade - https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/transphobic-war-cis-elon-musk-j-k-rowling-jordan-peterson-1234780337/
I coined the word "cisgender" 29 years ago. Here's what this controversial word really means - https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-cisgender-means-transgender_n_63e13ee0e4b01e9288730415
Has the term "straight white male" really become an insult? - https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/may/22/has-straight-white-male-become-an-insult-slur

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix-ebook/dp/B0C2MPVH9C/

Release Date: August 8, 2023

Run Time: 24:35
Three Year Retrospective

Episode Number: 29

It's time for my three years out as trans and three years on hormone replacement therapy check-in! We're gonna talk about what went right, what went wrong, and where things are at on this long journey to the true me. Marketing and communications executive Caitlin Carroll returns to discuss Batman night lights, how Arcee is trans, and how it's okay to perceive me now!

Episode download: TTT029.mp3

CAITLIN CARROLL
Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caitlincarroll48/

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Good Representation (Cyberpunk 2077), One Year Retrospective, Two Year Retrospective, HRT (and patience), Gender Dysphoria, Transition Setbacks, Transitioning During a Pandemic, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Body Hair, Photos, Photos 2 (the selfie apocalypse), Performative Allyship, Body Hacking, Hair, Hair 2 (first haircut), Trans People in Sports, Bodily Autonomy (my tattoo), Confidence, Into the Unknown (aka what is happening aka a whole new world), Voice, Voice 2 (hearing the true you), The Intentional Trans Allegories of The Matrix (and my book)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix-ebook/dp/B0C2MPVH9C/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: July 18, 2023

Run Time: 34:32
Transition Setbacks

Episode Number: 28

The beginning of this year was really rough for me. Nothing in life is a straight line of forward progress forever, so why would transition be? But when it feels like your identity is being stripped away, it can be so difficult to deal with. Marketing and communications executive Caitlin Carroll joins us to discuss the emboldening of bigotry, MMA fighting, and becoming our own endocrinologists!

Episode download: TTT028.mp3

CAITLIN CARROLL
Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caitlincarroll48/

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Body Hacking, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Body Hair

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: July 11, 2023

Run Time: 31:48
Compliments

Episode Number: 27

Compliments! Receiving them pre-transition can be anxiety-inducing, but after transition? Maybe that's changed. And when the way society perceives you changes, you might also be opened up to a new world of being to compliment others. YouTuber Alexis Soucie/TransCinderella returns to discuss melting Legos, the "trans lady in denial uniform," and how the general public really doesn't hate trans people. Try gay today!

Episode download: TTT027.mp3

ALEXIS SOUCIE
Twitter: @transcinderella
Insta: @transcinderella
Website: transcinderella.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Sexuality is Not Gender, The Signs Were Always There (that we're trans), Confidence, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: July 4, 2023

Run Time: 35:47
The Matrix and its Trans Allegories

Episode Number: 26

You've heard me mention it several times, and now I'm gonna mention it a whole lot more! My book, BEGIN TRANSMISSION: THE TRANS ALLEGORIES OF THE MATRIX is out today! So let's talk a little bit about it, and why I wrote it, and why seeing and understanding these allegories is so vital for trans people and our cis allies. Free your mind.

Episode download: TTT026.mp3

You can purchase or order the book anywhere books are sold, in hardcover, paperback, or digital! Audiobook on the way!

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/begin-transmission-tilly-bridges/1143193217

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: June 27, 2023

Run Time: 20:56
Trans Freedom (and Underwear)

Episode Number: 25

So often, trans life is restricted in so many ways. And when you live under those conditions, even the smallest things (like underwear?!) can be gateways to freedom. YouTuber Alexis Soucie/TransCinderella joins us to discuss content moderation, online harassment, and trans community support. And hey, "hell" is okay!

Episode download: TTT025.mp3

ALEXIS SOUCIE
Twitter: @transcinderella
Insta: @transcinderella
Website: transcinderella.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Being a Trans Parent (Mother's Day), Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, Tucking/Binding, Gender Dysphoria, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), Freeing Up My Brain (aka Lunch with Tilly), Body Hacking, Trans People Are Human Beings (Stop Staring at Us)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Tuck Buddies Etsy store - https://www.etsy.com/shop/TuckBuddies
Leo Lines Etsy store - https://www.etsy.com/shop/LeoLines

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: June 20, 2023

Run Time: 38:28
Parents Who Will Never Know the Real You

Episode Number: 24

I'm flying solo for this topic that's really hard for me. It's something trans people who transition as adults, after one or more of their parents has passed, have to deal with and can't really ever reconcile. On top of that, there are some other very complicated issues I have to deal with concerning this topic. I cried while writing it, I cried while recording it. I hope it helps some of you out there not feel so alone.

Episode download: TTT024.mp3

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Past and Why it Haunts Us, Being a Trans Parent aka Mother's Day, Legal Name and Gender Marker Change

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Color of Always, a LGBTQIA+ love anthology - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-color-of-always-brent-fisher/1142889042

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: June 13, 2023

Run Time: 16:51
Rainbow Capitalism

Episode Number: 23

Okay, fair warning, this is a big one. Because Rainbow Capitalism is bad and also complex, and we need to talk about why that is. And yeah, we're gonna talk about Target, and Dylan Mulvaney and Bud Light, and the Los Angeles Dodgers. If corporations want our sweet queer dollars, they need to start supporting us in tangible ways that matter. Writer and activist Felix Mack returns to discuss how doubts are normal and how to take up space as a man in a cautious way. Also you might not have known this, but trans people melt in the rain!

Episode download: TTT023.mp3

FELIX MACK
Insta: @felixmackwrites

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Politics, The Intentional Trans Allegory of The Matrix Resurrections

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/begin-transmission-tilly-bridges/1143193217
TransCanWork - https://transcanwork.org/
The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence - https://www.ladragnuns.org
Burger King Is Trolling Chick-fil-A This Pride, Despite Its Own Spotty LGBTQ+ Record - https://www.them.us/story/burger-king-trolls-chick-fil-a-pride-chking-chicken-sandwich
Burger King employees protest after coworker dies - https://smdp.com/2020/07/10/burger-king-employees-protest-after-coworker-dies/
Starbucks Threatens to Take Away Trans Rights at Stores That Unionize - https://www.them.us/story/starbucks-threatens-to-take-away-trans-rights-at-stores-that-unionize
Starbucks Threatens Trans Benefits in Anti-Union Push - https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2022-06-14/starbucks-threatens-trans-benefits-in-anti-union-push-staff-say#xj4y7vzkg
N.J. bill has genital checks to guard against transgender athletes - https://www.politico.com/newsletters/new-jersey-playbook/2022/06/10/its-not-just-ohio-n-j-bill-has-genital-checks-to-guard-against-transgender-athletes-00038714
These rainbow flag-waving corporations donated millions to anti-gay members of Congress - https://popular.info/p/these-rainbow-flag-waiving-corporations?s=r
25 corporations marking Pride donated over $10m to anti-LGBTQ+ politicians - https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2021/jun/14/corporations-anti-lgbtq-politicians-donations-study
A thread of corporations that plastered their social media accounts with rainbows for Pride Month - https://twitter.com/JuddLegum/status/1535328935457828864
15 brands giving back to the LGBTQ+ community - https://www.wsbradio.com/news/business/pride-month-2022-15/2LJ4ATVLFTQCY6O64RKGE5FELI/
Ulta Beauty political donations on Open Secrets - https://www.opensecrets.org/orgs/ulta-beauty/summary?id=D000069528
Everything You Need to Know About the Bud Light and Dylan Mulvaney Fiasco - https://www.them.us/story/dylan-mulvaney-bud-light-drama-explained
Anheuser-Busch political donations on Open Secrets - https://www.opensecrets.org/orgs/anheuser-busch/summary?id=D000042510
Target Pride backlash exposes 'rainbow capitalism' problem - https://www.reuters.com/business/retail-consumer/target-pride-backlash-exposes-rainbow-capitalism-problem-designer-says-2023-05-31/
Target Corp political donations on Open Secrets (be sure to check the 2022 election cycle donations) - https://www.opensecrets.org/orgs/target-corp/summary?id=D000000619
Chick-fil-A’s many controversies, explained - https://www.vox.com/the-goods/2019/5/29/18644354/chick-fil-a-anti-gay-donations-homophobia-dan-cathy

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: June 6, 2023

Run Time: 47:15
Cis People Get Gender Affirming Healthcare Too

Episode Number: 22

Did you know that the gender affirming healthcare trans people get... is the exact same that cis people get? Cis people take hormones, and even have surgeries, that affirm their gender! Learn all about it, and the hypocrisy of it being fine for them and not for us. Writer and activist Felix Mack joins us to discuss "She's the Man" and the WGA writers strike trans takeover of Netflix! Watch out for crumbly bones!

Episode download: TTT022.mp3

FELIX MACK
Insta: @felixmackwrites

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Intentional Trans Allegories of The Matrix, The Intentional (?) Trans Allegory of The Little Mermaid's "Part of Your World," The Intentional (?) Trans Allegory of The Twilight Zone's "Nervous Man in a Four Dollar Room," The Intentional Trans Allegory of Real Genius, Hormone Replacement Therapy, Physical Representation and the Hollywood Ideal, Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia, The False Dichotomy, Bodily Autonomy, Trans Rage

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/begin-transmission-tilly-bridges/1143193217
The American Society of Plastic Surgeons Insights and Trends Report: Cosmetic Surgery 2022 - https://www.plasticsurgery.org/documents/News/Trends/2022/trends-report-cosmetic-surgery-2022.pdf
The 7 Biggest Plastic Surgery Trends of 2022 - https://www.allure.com/story/plastic-surgery-trends-2022
Leg-lengthening surgery is gaining popularity among men seeking to be taller - https://www.nbcnews.com/health/mens-health/leg-lengthening-surgery-gains-popularity-men-seeking-taller-rcna79819
Most state bans on gender-affirming care for trans youth still allow controversial intersex surgery - https://www.pbs.org/newshour/health/most-state-bans-on-gender-affirming-care-for-trans-youth-still-allow-controversial-intersex-surgery

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: May 30, 2023

Run Time: 36:13
Giving Yourself Permission to Explore Gender

Episode Number: 21

You don't jump right into the deep end when you're first learning how to swim, and you can treat exploring your gender the same way. Take subtle little baby steps and see how you feel, you never know where it might lead. The Duchess of Grant Park, writer, director, and actor Ava Davis joins us once again to discuss tiaras, reverse colonialism, and shouting literary facts at people on the street. You shall hereby address me only as The Duchess of Burbank.

Episode download: TTT021.mp3

AVA DAVIS
Twitter: @the_ava_davis
Insta: the_ava_davis / duchessofgrantpark
The Duchess of Grant Park short film: watch.duchessofgrantpark.com (use "TFF2023" for 50% off!)
The Waltz feature film: thewaltzmovie.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Courage, The False Dichotomy, The Intentional Trans Allegory of The Little Mermaid's "Part of Your World," The Fear of Embracing Your True Self, Body Hacking

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: May 23, 2023

Run Time: 42:51
Anecdotal Trans Healthcare

Episode Number: 20

Trans people are such a small part of the population that very few medical studies are done on us. As a result, our doctors are often ignorant or misinformed about our medical needs... and we end up learning more from each other and our own research than we do our healthcare providers. And that's MESSED UP. The Duchess of Grant Park, writer, director, and actor Ava Davis joins us to discuss tiny speeches, jelly beans, and finally feeling at home in your own body. Also: I'm a lot! And you can't surgery yourself, so please don't try.

Episode download: TTT020.mp3

AVA DAVIS
Twitter: @the_ava_davis
Insta: the_ava_davis / duchessofgrantpark
The Duchess of Grant Park short film: watch.duchessofgrantpark.com (use "TFF2023" for 50% off!)
The Waltz feature film: thewaltzmovie.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
No Escape (from my deadname and reminders I'm trans), No Escape 2: Some Escape (thanks to cis allyship), Discriminatory Bureaucracy, Complete Trans Healthcare (or lack thereof), Trans Kids and the Intake Exam, Patience (hormone replacement therapy), One Year Retrospective, Two Year Retrospective, Gender Euphoria

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: May 16, 2023

Run Time: 43:33
Trans Parents and Mother's Day

Episode Number: 19

Parenthood can be a complicated topic for trans people, be it in relation to our own parents, or in relation to us as parents ourselves. Why are parental roles so gendered, and what's it like when you transition after your kids are already born? Let's find out. We welcome cartoonist Mae Dean back to the show to discuss, and you'll also learn how low necklines help you vent excess heat, and how everything we know about having respectful disagreements we learned from Star Trek.

Episode download: TTT019.mp3

MAE DEAN
Twitter: @maegodhavemercy
Insta: maegodhavemercy
Mastodon: @ maegodhavemercy @ tech.lgbt
Webcomic: reallifecomics.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Past (and why it can haunt those of us who transition as adults), The False Dichotomy, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening), Freeing Up My Brain (aka Lunch with Tilly), Trans Kids and the Intake Exam, Internalized Transphobia

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Color of Always, a LGBTQIA+ love comic anthology - pre-order now at Barnes & Noble
Red: A Crayon's Story - also available at Barnes & Noble

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: May 9, 2023

Run Time: 40:16
Internalized Transphobia

Episode Number: 18

Internalized transphobia is something we all have (yes, ALL of us), and we've got to deal with it if we ever want to get beyond it. And cis friends, how would wearing a trans pride flag make you feel? Let's examine that. Cartoonist Mae Dean joins us to discuss our shared experience of coming out VERY publicly, coming to terms with our old selves, and how lesbians sound fantastic. Who wants to hear me yearn for cleavage?

Episode download: TTT018.mp3

MAE DEAN
Twitter: @maegodhavemercy
Insta: maegodhavemercy
Mastodon: @ maegodhavemercy @ tech.lgbt
Webcomic: reallifecomics.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Implicit Queerphobia, Trans Intersectionality, Sexuality is Not Gender, T*rfs, The Fetishization of Trans Women, Trans Day of Visibility (you are trans enough), Misgendering (and passing), The Intentional Trans Allegories of The Matrix

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: May 2, 2023

Run Time: 38:53
Trans Courage

Episode Number: 17

Being trans in this world takes courage, but you know what? It SHOULDN'T. That doesn't change the reality though, so I invite you to come along on an adventure with childhood Tilly to learn about the dangers, and rewards, of facing your fears and doing things even if you're scared. Fintech warrior CJ joins us once again to discuss misgendering yourself, needle museums, and cheese and wine supremacy! Enjoy the happy bubbles!

Episode download: TTT017.mp3

CJ
Twitter: @omnienby
Insta: Glaamhaven, Omnienby
TikTok: Omnienby
Facebook: CJ Brittain

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Past (and why it can haunt those of us who transition as adults), Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it), The Fear of Embracing Your True Self (Halloween, makeup, and hair dye), Hair, and Hair 2

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 25, 2023

Run Time: 45:45
Searching for Meaning (When You're Trans and Don't Know it)

Episode Number: 16

When you're a kid (or adult!) who's trans but doesn't yet know it, you end up searching for answers about yourself and why the world feels so broken. And you end up looking everywhere... including places that might be the last that you'd expect. We're joined by CJ to discuss boobs or no boobs, how we need better words, and how we should just call everyone "Captain." Sometimes you just want to eat your Nando's.

Episode download: TTT016.mp3

CJ
Twitter: @omnienby
Insta: Glaamhaven, Omnienby
TikTok: Omnienby
Facebook: CJ Brittain

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Boymode/Girlmode, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Euphoria, Finding Our Own Representation (P!nk), Finding Our Own Representation/The New Past (KJ and Paper Girls), Physical Representation

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 18, 2023

Run Time: 33:06
Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People

Episode Number: 15

Clothes, clothes, clothes! The friend, and enemy, of every trans person. Why are they so dang heavily gendered and weird? Why are men's clothes so bland? What the heck is up with pockets (or lack thereof) and buttons (and the side-switching thereof)?! Ezekiel Strange joins us once again, and he encourages you to ~See the Wizards~! We're also gonna talk about what trans men and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles have in common, and British/European F-boys. I'm a popsicle, and I have no butt!

Episode download: TTT015.mp3

EZEKIEL STRANGE
Twitter: @ohheymonsterboy
Nox Hill webcomic: noxhillcomic.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Fear of Embracing Your True Self (Halloween, makeup, hair dye), Unexpected Bonuses of Transition, Gender Euphoria, The False Dichotomy, Trans Body Hacking, Photos 2 (the selfie apocalypse, aka the new gender dysphoria/euphoria)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Beau Brummell Wasn’t a Hero of Modern Men’s Fashion. He Was a Villain. A Boring, Uptight Villain.
The Politics of Pockets
Here’s Why Men’s and Women’s Clothes Button on Opposite Sides

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
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Release Date: April 11, 2023

Run Time: 37:26
The Erasure of Trans Men

Episode Number: 14

This should come as no surprise, but trans men exist. They're real human beings, actually! So why are they so often forgotten, both in ways that harm them and that harm the rest of the trans community? The answer may not surprise you, and involves willful ignorance. We're joined by astounding artist Ezekiel Strange to discuss this very important topic, and also how failing upward is not aspirational and how men's bathrooms are gross (it's true). Remember that even if it's scary, you can do it, and you're not the first one to go through it. I can't be contained!

Episode download: TTT014.mp3

EZEKIEL STRANGE
Twitter: @ohheymonsterboy
Nox Hill webcomic: noxhillcomic.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Rage (stop forgetting about us), Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo), Trans Intersectionality, Trans Rep in Media 2022, Trans Sports

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: April 4, 2023

Run Time: 39:12
Trans Day of Visibility (am I trans enough?)

Episode Number: 13

Visibility is a double-edged sword. We need to be out to be seen and respected, but doing so puts a target on our back to the bigoted portions of the population. Further complicating things is not just the gatekeeping done by some gas station hot dogs within the trans community, but the gatekeeping that we do to ourselves. We're joined by Melissa Hearne to discuss how acknowledging the binaries helps us find the space between them, and how you get to be who you are, and nobody else gets to tell you who that is.

Episode download: TTT013.mp3

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Sexuality is not Gender, The Signs Were Always There (that we're trans), Body Hacking, Gender Dysphoria

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 28, 2023

Run Time: 23:07
Finding Our Own Representation - P!nk

Episode Number: 12

Trans representation (and rep for people from all marginalized communities) is sparse, and when it does happen it's often harmful. And so we have to look elsewhere to see ourselves reflected in our media, and that's what finding our own representation is all about. And we're going to discuss a very personal and meaningful bit of art I've found my own representation in, P!nk. And that involves me spilling my soul and feeling really exposed, so... hope you're ready for that! We're joined by Melissa Hearne to discuss what being genderfluid means to them, how being us helps others be themselves, and how you can wake up each day and just be whatever you want to be.

Episode download: TTT012.mp3

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The False Dichotomy, The New Past (finding our own representation, KJ and Paper Girls)

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 21, 2023

Run Time: 36:23
The False Dichotomy

Episode Number: 11

So what the heck is the false dichotomy? It's opposing options that are presented as the ONLY options, it permeates absolutely every part of our society, and it harms all of us, even cis people. But don't buy into it! Life doesn't fit into neat little boxes, nor should it. Library Girl Mina Martinez Oldham joins us again, and we also discuss the importance of being seen and how playing is part of experimenting... and also cute non-binary librarians, culinary cruelty, and how trans women go where no man has gone before. Oh, also? I'm sunshine!

Episode download: TTT011.mp3

MINA MARTINEZ OLDHAM
library-girl.com
minaoldham.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
T*RFs (trans exclusionary radical feminists, aka transphobic bigots), Body Hacking

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 14, 2023

Run Time: 26:26
Trans Intersectionality

Episode Number: 10

Intersectionality! It's vital for every marginalized community, including us trans folks. But guess what? It doesn't (and can't) only apply to us, and people from other marginalized communities need US to be intersectional, too. We don't need to hurt others just to stand up for ourselves. We're joined by the Library Girl, Mina Martinez Oldham, to remind you that you support people from other marginalized communities is by listening to them, and believing them... just like we need cis people to do for us. You're also gonna learn how eggs recognize eggs, how coming out never ends, and how my breasts are perfect (listen, they just are).

Episode download: TTT010.mp3

MINA MARTINEZ OLDHAM
library-girl.com
minaoldham.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Privilege (in general, and that of cis people), Privilege (mine), The Only Trans Person You Know

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: March 7, 2023

Run Time: 32:01
Trans Body Hacking

Episode Number: 9

Body hacking?! You better believe it. And we all do it, trans and cis alike. Learn all about it and gain a better understanding of how we're all really more alike than you might think. We're again joined by Jack Knoxville of the Trans Empowerment Project, and we're here to remind you there's no roadmap to transition. Everyone's on their own journey, and yours is valid whatever it may be. And hey, you also get to learn about capes and Spider-Man, and how I very much like being alive!

Episode download: TTT009.mp3

JACK KNOXVILLE
Twitter: @jacktivism101, @trans_empowered
jackknoxville.com, transempowerment.org

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Hormone Replacement Therapy (and patience), Freeing Up My Brain (aka Lunch with Tilly), Gender Euphoria, Gender Dysphoria, The Intentional Trans Allegories of The Matrix

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 28, 2023

Run Time: 30:43
False Allyship

Episode Number: 8

What happens when allies aren't allies? What happens when their allyship is only performative? And what happens when it goes a step further, and becomes not just performative but also outright transphobic? You're gonna find out! We're joined by Jack Knoxville of the Trans Empowerment Project, and talk about clothing swaps, how being called on your bigotry is not equal to your actual bigotry, and how trans people are all such badasses (it's true!). And cis friends, remember that when you see transphobia, saying nothing makes it worse. We don't need you to be perfect, we just need you to TRY. Ask how to help if you're not sure!

Episode download: TTT008.mp3

JACK KNOXVILLE
Twitter: @jacktivism101, @trans_empowered
jackknoxville.com, transempowerment.org

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
No Escape 2 (some escape due to cis allyship), Performative Allyship, What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like, Implicit Queerphobia

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: February 21, 2023

Run Time: 43:47

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Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

Episode Archive

Privilege (time and money)

Confidence

Cis is Not a Slur

Three Year Retrospective

Transition Setbacks

Compliments

The Matrix and its Trans Allegories

Trans Freedom (and Underwear)

Parents Who Will Never Know the Real You

Rainbow Capitalism

Cis People Get Gender Affirming Healthcare Too

Giving Yourself Permission to Explore Gender

Anecdotal Trans Healthcare

Trans Parents and Mother's Day

Internalized Transphobia

Trans Courage

Searching for Meaning (When You're Trans and Don't Know it)

Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People

The Erasure of Trans Men

Trans Day of Visibility (am I trans enough?)

Finding Our Own Representation - P!nk

The False Dichotomy

Trans Intersectionality

Trans Body Hacking

False Allyship

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